The New York Times recently published an article about the emotional impact of cheating in divorce cases. More specifically, the emotional impact of sleeping with someone other than one’s spouse in the marriage bed. I read this article with some interest. Needless to say, I have had many clients whose spouses have developed new relationships, or have moved on themselves. This always impacts the dynamic of a case. Legally, because Nevada is a no fault divorce state, it rarely has an impact on the division of assets and debts, or even custody of the children. However, it always has an impact on the tenor of the negotiations and the emotional dynamic between the couple who are divorcing. I try to direct clients away from the feelings of anger and betrayal that accompany discovery of an affair by a spouse, because ultimately, my goal as an attorney is guide my clients through the divorce as efficiently and fairly as possible by not getting bogged down in the muck that often comes with divorces. However, I can just imagine how the impact of a new relationship is compounded by learning that a spouse has brought someone new to the marriage bed.
It’s not my job to judge, but if I were advising a client who was involved with someone new, I would tell my client to never, ever bring the new person to the marital home, and obviously that includes the marriage bed.